Black women in America

As a little girl I never knew much about colorism my parents never made me feel like I wasn’t pretty in fact quite the opposite. I grew up in the era of hip hop, the typical video girl was light skin with wavy flowing hair, usually attached to a rapper. I remember watching a Donelle Jones video that’s where I saw my first dark skin video vixen, not only one but two of them. I was in awwww of these women. How they glowed, how they moved, how beautiful they were on screen. I was happy to finally see women that looked like me. Being a sex symbol is normally not thought to be a black girl thing, being a darker complexioned black woman that’s even more rare. I can’t imagine why we need to have these discussions but we do. Our daughters need to know they are beautiful. They need to see more images that reflect that beauty. They need to be told they are beautiful. In this day and age where social media is on the rise and technology is available to our daughters at an early age, we need to be sure the images our daughters see reflect self love and build confidence. We need to set new standards for beauty, break myths and create a lane for young girls of color to thrive in confidently. Colorism is worse than racism because it can come from people who look like you. It can even come from family members which definitely can cause emotional damage, damage that can take a lifetime to repair. I had a friend ask why do I get upset when other races of women wear their hair braided. I get upset because it’s frowned upon if I wear my natural hair, yet it’s ok for a white woman to wear a wig that resembles my real hair and she’s told how beautiful her wig is. Culturally I know my worth I know how beautiful I am, I know the reason behind the braids and what they represent. It’s more than a look. colorism is a dangerous thing yet its not talked about often as it should be. Being a black woman in America is more complicated than a lot of us are prepared for, but I wouldn’t trade my dark skin for all the money in the world.

Self care

Body image

How important is what you think of yourself ? The only answer to that question is very. We live in a society where images are apart of our everyday life, you must be able to separate what you see from who you are. Take into account the ability for photos and videos to be photoshopped and edited, you can’t allow images you see to make you doubt yourself. I suggest being at a place of self awareness and love before spending hours on social media viewing stories others have posted in hopes you’d like them. Often times what we see on social media is not what is actually happening in real life. People are good at telling us who they want to be versus actually being who they are. The best lesson I have learned is to love myself, love myself so much that no matter what I see on social media I will always be me.


A new decade is approaching, its bigger than a new year new me. It’s a time to set new goals long and short. A chance to embrace the growth and lessons of 10 years ago. Reflections of how things use to be good and bad. I will use this time before the new year to embrace me as I am and prepare for the new me to come.

Introduce Yourself (Example Post)

This is an example post, originally published as part of Blogging University. Enroll in one of our ten programs, and start your blog right.

You’re going to publish a post today. Don’t worry about how your blog looks. Don’t worry if you haven’t given it a name yet, or you’re feeling overwhelmed. Just click the “New Post” button, and tell us why you’re here.

Why do this?

  • Because it gives new readers context. What are you about? Why should they read your blog?
  • Because it will help you focus you own ideas about your blog and what you’d like to do with it.

The post can be short or long, a personal intro to your life or a bloggy mission statement, a manifesto for the future or a simple outline of your the types of things you hope to publish.

To help you get started, here are a few questions:

  • Why are you blogging publicly, rather than keeping a personal journal?
  • What topics do you think you’ll write about?
  • Who would you love to connect with via your blog?
  • If you blog successfully throughout the next year, what would you hope to have accomplished?

You’re not locked into any of this; one of the wonderful things about blogs is how they constantly evolve as we learn, grow, and interact with one another — but it’s good to know where and why you started, and articulating your goals may just give you a few other post ideas.

Can’t think how to get started? Just write the first thing that pops into your head. Anne Lamott, author of a book on writing we love, says that you need to give yourself permission to write a “crappy first draft”. Anne makes a great point — just start writing, and worry about editing it later.

When you’re ready to publish, give your post three to five tags that describe your blog’s focus — writing, photography, fiction, parenting, food, cars, movies, sports, whatever. These tags will help others who care about your topics find you in the Reader. Make sure one of the tags is “zerotohero,” so other new bloggers can find you, too.